Blog
home | site map | privacy policy


None of Us Arrived with an Owners Manual: A Fresh Perspective on the Drive to Lead (part 2)


Why didn't I get an Owner's Manual

After a little while with life happening and no sign of the Manual we began to realize we would need to make the best of it. We began to look around to see who had one and studied what they knew, surely some of it must be generic! We began to study our parents, our siblings - if they looked competent enough, and our other care givers.

They all seemed like gods to our small experience of life, so confident, so able, so talented. Surely they must have a great version of their Owner's Manual! Many of us translated this into a presumption that they had a Manual and it was a wonderful copy, full of talents and abilities. We had our confidence high that we could do it! We could find mastery.

After a while of looking it seemed like everyone big had one. Another doubt crept in, maybe we were the only one who didn't get one. We got secretive about it. Hiding the humiliation, coldness, rejection, betrayal and abandonment deep inside ourselves.

Many of us did such a good job we threw away the key and forgot we ever had such deep and painful doubts about our ability to make it here. Instead we got involved in studying others, working at it and seeking to create a new version of our own. Some of us got so good at this game we forgot why we were doing it; there just remained some deep unrest about who we really are.

Some of us progressed from here and made different conclusions based on our perception of those around us. Some of us looked at our siblings and thought they were a bit spare, maybe they didn't get one either. Maybe it was just our family, all our generation, kids in our neighborhood and so on.

Some of us looked at our parents and thought they got a warped one, however our faith in them and their ability to support us was so great that we willing joined into their pain and shame. We were so driven to work out how to operate here, it was such a primary drive we would do anything to learn.

Crisis is a blessing in disguise.

The strange thing is this was not a real representation of reality. Our hearts are wonderful places of honor, strength and courage. Anyone in an extreme crisis has not needed to doubt the courage of our true nature. Our heroic acts are legendary. The terrorist attacks of recent times bring this home to us. In Bali, ordinary injured Australians did extraordinary things and saved lives. In New York, September 11 brought out an extraordinary unity in this big, fast, hard city. The tradition is older, our heros of the wars; our pioneers of territory, mind, spirit and heart; our popular leaders' values and so the list is infinite.

The question is never what is the value of the human heart, rather it is - is our heart open? Can we access our greatness or have we become immune, scared or so small we no longer want to go there for fear it won't be OK anymore.

Put aside the falseness of your egoic nature, the part you alone created, apart from your heart. Take up instead your essential nature, who you truly are, and heal the rift in your drive to lead as a beacon, an example, a shining light and a wonder!

This article may be reproduced in printed or web format, provided the resource box below is included.

Rosemary Johnston is a professional corporate and personal coach. Working with executives from some of Australia's largest and most successful companies for over 15 years.

Rosemary's new book, "How To Develop Your Leadership Style and Skills to Take Charge of Your Career and Life" is now available to download at her web site. Read about some of the success Rosemary has had coaching leaders in Australian blue chip companies. http://www.leadershipfirst.com.au

Leadership is best defined by the quality of your thoughts, decisions and actions. It is also underpinned by the quality of the tools you use in your role. Be seen to bring true leadership to your organization and act with the authority that it brings to you.

Site Build It! Tools


MORE RESOURCES:
This RSS feed URL is deprecated, please update. New URLs can be found in the footers at https://news.google.com/news


Financial Times

EU summit, central bank meetings, ANC leadership battle
Financial Times
Uber's appeal against Transport for London's refusal to renew its licence is due to be heard. TfL said in September that the ride-hailing app had shown a “lack of corporate responsibility” in relation to “public safety and security”. The hearing comes ...

and more »


The Hill

Pence hits Palestinian leadership for backing out of meeting
The Hill
The Palestinian foreign minister on Saturday announced Palestinian President Mahmoud Abbas will not meet with Pence when he visits the region later this month, citing Trump's decision to recognize Jerusalem as the Israeli capital. Egypt's Coptic Church ...
Trump's Jerusalem Decision Angers Palestinian Leadership More Than the Man on the StreetHaaretz
The Palestinian Leadership Is Encouraging ViolenceNewsweek
Religious Leaders Divided Over Trump's Jerusalem DecisionNPR
The Guardian -The Atlantic
all 14,854 news articles »


Telegraph.co.uk

Party of Sarkozy faces split as populist set to win leadership of French conservatives
Telegraph.co.uk
A populist accused of flirting with the far-Right was set to become leader of the conservative party of Nicolas Sarkozy, The Republicans, on Sunday. Laurent Wauquiez was expected to win a party election by a wide margin, making a second-round vote ...
France's conservatives choose leader to rattle Macron's perchReuters
France's Republicans Set to Elect Leader to Challenge MacronVoice of America
'Bad boy' Laurent Wauquiez elected French conservative leaderPOLITICO.eu
The Guardian
all 22 news articles »


Flathead physicians chosen for leadership program
Daily Inter Lake
Physicians have long played important roles in hospital leadership, often serving as the link between the board room and clinical realms. But many don't receive specific leadership training during their medical careers, which is where organizations ...



Daily Herald

UVU, Utah Women & Leadership Project honored by Envision Utah
Daily Herald
What's good for women is good for Utah, and the Utah Women & Leadership Project at Utah Valley University has helped both women and the area, enough to earn one of two Common Good Awards presented this year by Envision Utah. “ULWP embodies everything ...



AZCentral.com

The Arena calls on next generation of diverse leadership during Phoenix summit
AZCentral.com
A social-welfare non-profit known as the Arena made its way to Phoenix on Saturday for its quarterly summit calling on the next generation of diverse leadership. The two-day event that began Friday at the Phoenix Convention Center unites community and ...



SBS

Frecklington favourite for LNP leadership
SBS
Mr Mander's decision to give his support to Ms Frecklington surprised many and some in the party have warned the move could undermine his chances of claiming the leadership in the future. Nanango-based Ms Frecklington is seen by some as the antidote to ...
Queensland Election results 2017: Mark Robinson going for LNP leadershipCourier Mail
Third name in the ring for LNP leadershipBrisbane Times
Dr Mark Robinson enters Qld LNP leader raceThe Australian

all 46 news articles »


Central Michigan Life

First Spring Leadership Safari to take place next month
Central Michigan Life
The first-ever Spring Leadership Safari aims to promote personal growth during a two-day event geared towards deferred freshmen and transfer students. The event is a condensed version of the August Leadership Safari and is for students arriving in the ...



China: Contradictions in climate leadership
The Interpreter
This article is part of a series for the Australia-UK Asia Dialogue, co-hosted by the Lowy Institute and Ditchley Foundation, and supported by the Department of Foreign Affairs and Trade and the Foreign and Commonwealth Office. Xi Jinping had a good ...



MLB.com

Feeney remembered at leadership symposium
MLB.com
"I still find myself picking up the phone to call her," her brother, Stoney Feeney, said Sunday. "What would Katy do?" He told that story to a gathering of female executives from Major League Baseball and its teams during the first Katharine Feeney ...


Google News

© 2016 Definition Of Leadership & Career Consulting Limited